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Unwanted Babies

I am reminded again about the frailty of life in an urban slum.

This is a pretty sad story.

I am not going to post a picture

This poor woman is a victim, a victim of poverty and probably an abusive husband, she is trapped in her circumstance, she knows not what she does.

But to a Western mind it is good to be reminded, to be provoked to action.

ANALIZA’S STORY
Analiza is 42 years old this is her 8th pregnancy, unfortunately, only a few months before we found her she lost her 7th child 2 weeks after it was born.
She had terrible diabetes during her pregnancy (this birth as well) and she delivered at Mother and Child. The baby did not stop crying and was unwell, yet she checked herself out of hospital and this was a huge mistake.
In one week the baby developed a purple violet mark around its neck and it simply died during the night (no cold no temperature no laboring to breathe)
Once the baby got sick again and then died she was too scared to go back to the hospital, because they warned her not to go, and made her sign a waiver form.

She did not ask for help, she did not come to church, even though she knew the help was only around the corner, no-one knew that the baby died. She kept it secret and was very embarrassed.

The baby simply disappeared no funeral,  no grieving just silence.

 

Unfortunately, this kind of behavior although shocking is not unknown, the poor child was unwanted and I am guessing the mother was relieved it died. Sad shocking but true. She would have been under incredible pressure to come home from her husband and look after her other 6 chn…. so she discharged herself.

Now she is pregnant again, God help us, God help that child. we worked with her and really encouraged a ligation but I really do not think she understood, even in Tagalog. So so sad, unwanted and unloved babies. I cannot judge this woman, not really in my heart of hearts, we could never know the depths and desperation she feels.

I resolve to do what God tells me and educate as much as possible, especially our mothers.

I guess our only comfort as Christians is that child was known by God and treasured, it went to heaven to be loved and cherished.

Such a harsh world,

Mother Teresa understood.

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Days for Girls

We have been really blessed to partner with our local chapter of Days for Girls in Kapunda South Australia

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Our dear friend Deb has welcomed us with open arms to Kapunda Craft and Hope Sewing Days!

It has been so exciting to meet and sew and be given over 50 kits to take for free to Baseco this year.

I have been able to share the time with my daughter (9 years old) who has enjoyed thoroughly using an overlocker and zooming up liners for Days for Girls Kits…..makes her part of the ministry in Baseco. That is big in her world!

The kits are ingenious, they are fully recyclable allowing girls to wash and reuse their pads without any ongoing costs for sanitary items . They are simply beautiful as well! All easy to use and pretty to look at housed in a discreet cotton backpack!

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Here are some beautiful photos of our sewing days with the team!

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And here are the kilos of Kits we are taking over to Manila!

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All I can say is that I am grateful for ladies who love to sew with a purpose!

Not to mention the beautiful quilts made and singlets collected for me.

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Every girls deserves dignity and Days for Girls helps us get there!

Jinky’s Story

We met Jinky about a year ago,

She joined the Birthing Better Babies Programme.

She was 25, already had a young child

Then she met a man.

She became pregnant to him.

After all he had a  job

Looked after her and her small child.

Life looked good for Jinky.

However life is hard in the slum.

It turns out the man had a wife already.

His wife was an Filipino Overseas Worker away for months at a time.

She returns.

To her house and to her husband.

He returns to his wife.

Jinky is turned out

Unprotected

Pregnant

Rejected.

Jinky alone, desperate and devastated has the baby.

Under immense financial pressure to support the newborn

Jinky is forced to give the baby away.

No one knows who to, perhaps family in the province,

Perhaps to a couple who can support the child for her,

Perhaps to strangers.

We do know

Jinky was sad, so very sad.

Devastated.

We all were.

From everything to nothing.

From happiness to deep sadness,

No mother gives her baby away unless she must.

Life is tough in the slum.

Women do what they must

To survive

To live

To eat.

Jinky’s story is not unusual,

She is one of many

Even hundreds

Even thousands of woman and girls.

Coping with unplanned pregnancies

Unstable relationships.

There is no photo of Jinky

Perhaps that is good

Perhaps Jinky can remind us of the betrayed and alone

The women abandoned and pregnant.

Birthing Better Babies helped

But not enough.

Jinky had choices

She did not know them.

Choices such as school, education, work

Choices that empowered her

Stabilised her

Grown her.

Pray we are part of the solution for girls like Jinky.

Pray we offer life in the darkness

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Cathy

Baseco 2015

This is an exciting time in the Birthing Better Babies World

This year in April I am going to Baseco with Australian  midwives from Impact Erina Church, this presents the BBB team with a greater and wider opportunity to touch and bless the local community with reaching skills much wider than my own. Very exciting but at the same time challenging.

It has been interesting though, throughout the past two years I have found my heart leaning heavily toward the word PREVENTION….

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Prevention rather than cure! Birthing Better Babies is a cure, albeit a worthwhile one, it is a cure to an essential problem which can be whittled down to a few basic facts which are prevalent in Baseco …

  • Unplanned pregnancies for women
  • Multiple pregnancies and fear of contraception
  • Teens getting pregnant
  • Lack of education for women in general
  • General body ignorance

So with more man/woman power we can now tackle at least some of this problem. Every ounce of time we spend educating the next generation will eventually have an impact on the babies they create.This will be our focus.

Even the interpreters we use are young impressionable girls who will hear the message of health, awareness, education advantages and sexual health over and over again! They will speak it and eventually they will become it! They in turn will teach their children a better way and the level will slowly begin to rise, the tide will begin to turn!

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So as we travel to Baseco this year we are armed with tools that will open doors of communication for this kind of communication. I have found most of my most impacting times have been one on one with women, door to door sitting in women’s houses and speaking as sisters Days for Girls Kits are a perfect tool to open these conversations as well as bless them with a great resource.

Every girl in the world deserves education, safety, and dignity. We help girls gain access to quality sustainable feminine hygiene and awareness, by direct distribution of sustainable feminine hygiene kits, by partnering with nonprofits, groups and organizations, by raising awareness, and by helping  communities around the world start their own programs.

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These kits will allow us to speak to women and girls and share on principles of

  • Body awareness and correct terms for body parts
  • Hygiene and germs
  • Body respect
  • Schooling and advantages of
  • Sex Education

We will also take part in a General Body Awareness Day with the Youth of the areas and churches, focusing on

  • Finding out what they actually know
  • Body parts and correct names
  • How are babies conceived
  • How can we prevent pregnancy

With these tools we can begin to build a fence of protection around the top of the cliff rather than an ambulance waiting at the bottom.

So pray as we prepare to go. I am sure we will all be challenged and stretched. But above all pray for the women and the girls we speak to that we will make a difference that they will be open to hear!

Thanks and Blessings

Cathy